Different libido in relationships

Unfortunately, this phenomenon  – different libido – is common nowadays.  

There are very few relationships in which couples are equally satisfied with their sex lives. At the beginning of the relationship, sex is still usually okay. But as the years go by, that changes, unfortunately, mostly to the dissatisfaction of one of the parties. 

If only one party shows a decrease in libido, it can cause a problem in the relationship in the long term. It could lead to divorce or breakup. 


What are the reasons for different libido? 

One of the most common reasons that people start to find their partner boring. In sex, you can predict the other, too familiar, boring. 

It can also be a problem if the partner has erectile dysfunction or if the woman develops vaginal dryness. 

Decreased sexual desire can be caused by stress, anxiety, or depression or the menopause in women as well. 

Also, low libido can be caused by certain medications, pregnancy, and breastfeeding. Hormone levels change during pregnancy, and after childbirth, mothers are exhausted. Because of the baby, others are priorities within the family. All of this can affect your sex life. 

Decreased libido can also be caused by certain diseases, such as cardiovascular disease and diabetes, as well as being overweight. 

And unfortunately, this phenomenon is accompanied by a rushed, heightened lifestyle. 

Who are involved

In principle, anyone, there is no protection against it. But perhaps more common in women. Few know that a decrease in libido during the sexually active period affects half of the women. The reason for these cases is often a relationship problem, stress, fatigue. But it can also indicate some more serious health problems. 


What should you do in this case, when you have a different libido? 

Within a relationship, one of the most important things is to keep sex as a topic. If you don’t, at least talk about it. This is because the end of this problem can easily be that both members of the couple are angry with the other. Watching a movie together, visit a swinger club just for fun, reliving the beginning of a relationship can help. Dating, text messages. Recreation, travel, new experiences. Exciting new locations. 


But there is a point where the solution is to talk to a doctor or even a sex psychologist about this. Exploring the causes can also lead to healing. 

We will continue the topic in our next post!